Wedding

Our son Richard, was married this weekend in North Carolina. 

It took place in a beautiful park near Winston Salem and Wes officiated. They are planning on a celebration where everyone is invited next Spring. 

We also had a brunch afterwards. It was sweet. 

I had hoped that Richard would take some time to be alone after his extremely difficult marriage with Ashley. But I've come to realize that he will never be alone. Ivy was one of his roommates after he left Ashley. I have felt in my heart that my mom helped them find each other. I'm not sure of how their relationship transpired, but they seem happy. They work as a team. They are very considerate of each other. They are fiscally responsible. They both love their families. They both see the same therapist...that's another story. 

I'm extremely happy for them. Richard has been though so much with his first marriage. It was in a beautiful temple, where they were sealed together for all eternity. There were dozens of family members there to wish them well. We could not forsee the future but we all have agency and Ashley choose to leave everything she had once valued and she now lives alone and often posts a 'go find me' to pay her rent. She says she is happy. I'm happy for her. 

I've had a few friends with in the church ask if I'm okay with this new relationship. And yes, I find it annoying . The answer is YES. Why would I not be? They are both happy. They care about each other. Oh, the reason I should not be happy is because it is not a temple marriage. A temple marriage does not guarantee anything. I am personally very grateful that he is in a relationship that has a chance for more happiness.

My message is this: if you are in a relationship that makes you want to end your life, please leave. Rent a little room and ask all your family for help. They love you. They want you to be here, on this earth, even if you feel broken and hopeless.  No one can forsee the future, but it can be better, even really good. 

Love me some North Carolina green. 

I wish you could hear it. Birds are everywhere. 

Good is good....

Always choose life....

Faith is real....